לרפואת חיים בן חנה רייזל
לזכות ר' ברוך בן ר' משה
The Bikkurei Yaakov cites the Sefer Knesses Hagdola who says that we give Chosson Torah on Simchas Torah to an acutal chosson. But how can you have a chosson on simchas Torah - we are not allowed to get married on succos? The Bikkurei Yaakov cites an explanation that the chosson will be getting married the next week. So we see that a chosson is called a chosson even before the wedding.
The Rebbe Shlita offered another היכי תמצא how you can have a chosson on Simchas Torah - The Rambam says that if one married two woman at once, he has one week of sheva brachos with each independently. So if a man married 2 woman before Succos - he can be during his sheva brachos on Simchas Torah with wife number 2.
Ahhhhh:-).
Rav Soloveitchik was of the opinion that until the actual marriage he is not a chosson. Therefore - he wouldn't put ashes on a chossons head [Bava Basra 60b] until after the nisuin [Nefesh HaRav Page 260].
He also explained that when a chosson walks to the chuppah we rise NOT because he is a מלך [as חתן דומה למלך] but because he is going to perform a mitzva [see Bikkurim 3/3].
Interesting.
