Thursday, October 25, 2012

True Listening

One of my major areas of interest in this world is the art of listening. So rare that I meet someone who actually does. I lament the absence of this critical faculty. I saw a quote that puts it so well that if you read it ten times you will be rewarded. I hope to talk more about this in future posts.

True listening is a rare skill. Usually, the greater part of a person’s attention is taken up by their thinking. At best, they may be evaluating your words or preparing the next thing to say. Or they may not be listening at all, lost in their own thoughts.

True listening goes far beyond auditory perception. It is the arising of alert attention, a space of presence in which the words are being received. The words now become secondary. They may be meaningful or they may not make sense. Far more important than what you are listening to is the act of listening itself, the space of conscious presence that arises as you listen. That space is a unifying field of awareness in which you meet the other person without the separative barriers created by conceptual thinking. And now the other person is no longer “other.” In that space, you are joined together as one awareness, one consciousness.