Thursday, April 12, 2012

Romantic?

קשה זיווגו של אדם כקריעת ים סוף - Making a shidduch is as difficult as splitting the sea. We wondered in a recent post about the comparison and offered an answer.

Another one...

You walk with your beloved on the boardwalk. How romantic! What is romantic though about a sea splitting??

When two people come together they assume that they should be alike. We like, someone once said, people who are alike. This is an error when it comes to marriage. We can't be like our spouse. The Zohar Hakadosh says תרי אפכיא - man and woman are two opposites. "East is east and west is west and never the twain shall meet" [bonus points if you can tell me where that quote is from]. If spouses would be alike we would have yet ANOTHER blog called "Mevakeshes Lev". I thiiiink one Mevakesh Lev is mooooore than enough. The "Mevakeshes" is busy ensuring the future of Klal Yisrael.

So here it is - The sea is naturally together and Hashem had to separate it. A man and woman are naturally apart and Hashem has to bring them together. Same principle. Against nature.

Something to keep in mind next time you are annoyed with your spouse...